What is a relationship coach? And how can they help?
Updated: Apr 24
A relationship coach is trained to help you build relationships based on honesty, equality and self-respect.
The coach acts as your supporter and guide, rather than an instructor. We give you the space to be yourself, and encourage you to express what you need from others in order to thrive.
As you gain confidence, you learn how to create boundaries and safeguard yourself against relationships which damage your self-worth.
What sort of relationships?
For many people, the word `relationship’ means intimate relationships with a spouse or partner.
In fact, it describes any connection between people — parents, siblings, friends, co-workers or even business clients.
Why do people come to relationship coaching?
Some people come to relationship coaching because they’re struggling at work. Their career is stalling because of poor communication, or they’re simply exhausted by pretending to be someone they’re not.
Others find it difficult to make friends, or their family relationships are causing distress.
These days, there’s a growing problem with finding a life partner. Dating apps are everywhere but they can be intimidating and overwhelming — or downright depressing.
Even in a long-term relationship, you can feel lonely, especially if it’s not bringing what you need.
Loneliness and self-doubt, miscommunication, feeling misunderstood and mistrustful … If you’ve tried to protect yourself by giving up on relationships altogether, you’re not alone.
How does relationship coaching help?
The overall aim of relationship coaching is to build confidence in your ability to form strong relationships.
Essentially, it’s about self-knowledge and self-respect. It’s a chance to see how you’re perceived by others — and an opportunity to try new ways of doing things to see if they work better.
It’s not an easy ride. Coaches are trained to ask the questions you may find hard to answer. After all, in order to break down the barriers, you have to take a close look at them first.
Having said that, a good coach will always approach painful issues from a place of empathy, understanding and a great deal of patience. It’s their job to support you.
Why would you need relationship coaching?
Now that you know what the process involves, why would you need a relationship coach? Here are a few examples:
You’re struggling to get buy-in for your ideas. Colleagues won’t listen to you.
You’ve been getting poor feedback.
There’s no one at work to act as your sounding board.
You’re feeling lonely, misunderstood and isolated.
Personal and family relationships
You’re no longer on speaking terms with a parent or sibling.
You give in to other people’s bad behaviour. You can’t express your own needs.
You find it hard to meet and befriend people.
You feel lonely most of the time.
You’ve had one unhappy relationship too many.
You struggle to work out what you need in a life partner.
Your relationships are marred by conflict and misunderstandings.
You’ve given up altogether. It feels safer that way.
If any of those sound like you, a relationship coach can help you untangle the roots of the problem. It’s a chance to be heard.
Get in touch for a no-obligation chat. You can tell me what you need, ask questions and see what you think.